Yes, I do use rather formal language. I always do that in potential conflict situations - maybe an old Military Police habit. For me, using formal language in a potential conflict situation is the only right way, because it’s neither “fraternizing” with the other, nor offensive or hostile. It’s simply stating facts.
Unfortunately, people nowadays are so used to everything being sugarcoated that many feel attacked by a simple and neutral stating the facts.
Anyways, that’s how I see it:
When a user registers, the user is presented with the forum rules. The user has to confirm that the user understands and accepts the rules. So if a user violates those rules, I see no reason to be apologetic towards this user, because it’s not my fault that this user consciously chose to ignore the rules which the user confirmed to accept before.
Again, to my latest information, ardupilot.com is to be a support forum, not a community. The major difference is that people come to a support forum to find solutions for their problems. For that reason, a few things must be enforced very strictly, namely
1.) Reading of the documentation and searching the forums before asking a question
2.) Posting into the right subforum
3.) Opening new topics for new questions
4.) Meaningful topic titles.
If those are not enforced, it will get increasingly hard to find relevant information even for the users which spend an effort to comply with the rules and as a consequence, more and more users will not read before asking a question, so the moderation effort will increase exponentially while the overall quality of the forum goes down in a circle.
Trust me, I have seen this before three times! I’m not playing badass here because I am a badass!
For me it’s an honor that Craig and Chris entrusted me with the admin task in this forum and I am determined to do what I can, to the best of my abilities, to make this forum work and - especially - not go down in a mess and chaos as I have seen this before in other forums!
We can surely talk about details, like putting a “please” here or changing a phrase there - by the way, for some phrases I made BBCodes, so we could discuss about adjusting the word choice a little bit…
But in the core, I am convinced that we must not “soften” the moderation style significantly.
You can never get it right for everybody! And frankly, I’m not sure if we need users who confirm and accept the forums rules and 30secs later violate them in their first post.
Personally, I prefer having a few “lost sheep” along the way and in return a high-quality support forum where the majority of the users easily and comprehensively finds the needed information.
Besides, lack of proper moderation is also one of the major user-criticisms against RCG… And they are supposed to be a community, not even a support forum…